Everything worthwhile in Life is won through surmounting the associated negative experience.
Any attempt to escape the negative, to avoid it or quash it or silence it, only backfires.
The avoidance of suffering is a form of suffering.
The avoidance of struggle is a struggle.
The denial of failure is a failure.
Hiding what is shameful is itself a form of shame.
Pain is an inextricable thread in the fabric of life, and to tear it out is not only impossible, but destructive: attempting to tear it out unravels everything else with it. To try to avoid pain is to give too many damns about pain.
In contrast if you’re able to give a damn about the pain, you become unstoppable.